Language

Language

Examples

Situation:  The contract for the purchase of your home indicates the purchasers are the following: your spouse's name, and then your name followed by the words "his wife".
Response:  Ask that the attorney change it to indicate each of your names followed by the words, "a married couple".

Situation: You can tell that something is not written for you, but many people present it as a guideline for  your life, such as, "Thou shalt not covet they neighbor's wife."  The thought just never crossed your mind.  You have no trouble following this rule.  (Paraphrased JoAnn Elizabeth.)
Response:  Find a guidance source that relates to you, such as, "Thou shalt not allow thyself to be dominated, objectified or enslaved by another, but demand respect for thine own true value." - JoAnn Elizabeth

Situation:  You want to experience the flash of insight, instead of feeling distant, from some of humanity's greatest thinkers.  (Paraphrased Lois Roisman.)
Response: Translate some passages from male to female, as in the following example.  "Put fear out of your heart.  This Nation will survive, this State will prosper, the orderly business of life will go forward if only women can speak in whatever way given them to utter what their hearts hold - by voice, by posted card, by letters, or by press.  Reason never has failed women.  Only force and oppression have made the wrecks in the world." -William Allen White in The Emporia Gazette, 1922.  Translated from male to female by Lois Roisman.

Situation: At Governors State University an admissions counselor asked me a question after I told him I wanted to study programming. He asked, "Do you do other things when you get home in the evening?" When I said yes, he said that I would be competing with young men who do nothing but programming when they get home in the evening. His words are consistent with discrimination lawsuit prevention, but his results are the same as the use of words that are not consistent with discrimination lawsuit prevention.
Response: I want to speak with your supervisor, right now. Is there anything we can do to interrupt this chain of status quo, unfair, typical let's-squash-her-spirit-because-we-don't need-her-brain-power behavior?